10 Lessons From 2022
With 2022 ending, what life lessons are you taking in to the new year? On this episode of The New Helix Experience podcast, Tim Frey shares about 2022 life lessons hoping it’ll spread awareness and make us learn from his mistakes.
- Why playing the long game always pays off
- The famous quotes: “This too shall pass” and “Actions speak louder than words”
- On your 30s: semi retirement, is it game over and marriage
- Why “People with no life will always try and start drama in yours”
- People tearing you down is a reflection of their internal state
- Is there happiness in helping others?
- Why you should never neglect your credit score
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Podcast Transcript: 10 Lessons From 2022
Speaker1: [00:00:00] All right, guys, let’s get into this episode. So this episode is about the ten lessons from 2022. Essentially, I wanted to compile this with a bonus episode where a bonus lesson here so you guys can learn from my mistakes, enjoy my funny stories, and maybe build some awareness about these things so you don’t make them yourself. But I guess everyone needs to go through these lessons and mistakes at some point, but creating awareness around them is going to be good. So the first lesson is play the long game. It always pays off with training. Short bursts of intensity are pretty unsustainable, as you can imagine. You come into the gym some weeks, you do ten sessions, other weeks you do for the ten is probably going to be a little bit more unsustainable and lead to burnout a little bit faster. What leads to burnout happens? And then you get an injury and then you put yourself back six weeks and the whole thing starts again. So I’m more about consistency over a long period of time rather than short bursts of intensity. So I usually try to say I’m going to train four times a week, minimum, walk ten steps every day, and then maybe get a fifth or sixth session in over time. But four sessions for me works super well in business. Kind of the same thing. Like if you’re going to play the short game, you’d be doing like crazy Facebook ads, spending heaps of money on that, getting really low quality clients.
Speaker1: [00:01:23] Or the long game, which I’ve adopted this year is like Google SEO have produced far better clients which stay for longer and get better results. So you know, you can have a cash influx of dollars quickly with like Facebook ads and running challenges and these types of things. But long term clients that stay longer and get better results come from like Google SEO. My second lesson is everything will be okay in the end quote. I like to think about here is this too shall pass. So I’ve had periods throughout the year where I thought the world was caving in on me. Everything seemed so dark and I never thought I’d emerge from the shadows, so to speak. But I did. And everything is okay. So I like to think about the polarity of the universe here. So for every good day, you have an equally opposite bad day. For every bad day you have an equally opposite good day. If you’re having a shit time or a bad month or a bad week or it seems like a bad year, there’s going to be an equally good year or good time on the other side of that at some point. My third lesson is semi-retirement at 30 is not what it cracked up to be. So I was just a dream about this is like basically working a couple of days a week in my thirties, you know, enjoying my time, going motorbike riding and playing PlayStation and going surfing and skating and all these types of things.
Speaker1: [00:02:39] Pretty epic. But like, I’ve done that and that’s not me. I really had to learn that to go through it. That might sound sweet for you, but at some point it gets a little bit boring. The thing that really lights me up is helping people, and that’s why I got into coaching. It’s why a podcast is why I make YouTube videos. So I email. That’s why I do strategy sessions with people because I love helping people. That’s what it is. Personally, for me, it’s not what it cracks up to be, especially with my partners business doing well as well. There was no real need for me to do much besides support her, which is, you know, if you’re listening to this, you’re probably like, That’s sounds fucking epic. But also it’s not like being a stay at home dad is not what I want. I want to help people. And that’s what I’m about. My fourth lesson is no amount of drama is worth the money in business. So, you know, the quote here is people with no life always try and start drama in yours. That’s a summary of the first probably couple of months in business of 2022.
Speaker1: [00:03:44] And I want you to ask a question. Do you have those type of people that start drama in your life like it’s not worth the fucking energy, It’s really cleansing to get rid of that shit and life is a lot better after you do get rid of that shit. My fifth lesson is people tearing you down is a reflection of their internal state. The more successful I become, the worse it gets. This year was like huge for personal attacks. Happen like lots of times on the internet. But internet is crazy. But it definitely feels like obviously the more you publish and the more you put out there, the more chance it happens. But they just get so petty and pathetic. But I think it’s just probably more like a reflection of their internal state than anything else. Well, it definitely is. I want you guys to let me know. How do you deal with the Internet bullies? It seems something that’s becoming more petty and pathetic as we go. I used to I was speaking to the news over Skype and Patrick about it. His simple strategies is blocking them, which, yeah, interesting strategy, but I don’t think like engaging in the the debate or the conversation or the trolling is is the way forward. The fitness industry is definitely like pretty bad for it. My six lesson here is not over once you turn 30. Physically aren’t a fun factor.
Speaker1: [00:05:01] So this year, personally, like, my lifts have gone through the roof. Everything’s going great. I’ve hit pubs and everything. And I used to think, like once you turn 30, you basically, like wither up into a bowl and just become useless. But that doesn’t seem to be the case. I feel like I’m turning on this this time of old man strength at the moment, which is incredible. But not just that. Like every area of my life has gotten better. I think like the twenties to thirties was like educating and finding out what you’re doing and then thirties to forties is actually about enjoying that. So I’m just in my I just turned 31, so I’m just in that period now, I’ve really started to enjoy this. I know if you’re listening to this, you’re probably between 25 to 45, so you can resonate with me on so many levels on this. Mentally, I probably still feel about ten, but physically now 31 life just feels a lot more enjoyable. In my thirties, less than seven Real happiness is helping others. As I alluded to forward, The biggest joys I get in my life are in coaching. When I coach physical fitness, when I coach business in my wife’s business and mindset and life with some of my clients as well. These are all the times where I feel the most lit up, lots of me up to see others win.
Speaker1: [00:06:17] Is this something that could be missing in your life? How can you help others? Like maybe it’s volunteering. Mary’s charity work might be donating your time somewhere else, but personally, for me, this is the stuff that lights me up most. It might not be for you, but like, from what I read and what I see and what I speak to people about, helping others is the greatest gift you can give to anyone else and the greatest sense of satisfaction personally that you can feel. My eighth lesson is actions speak louder than words always. I’m always reminded of this year and every other year for that. Everyone says they want to be better, they want to be healthier, they want to train more, they want to get stronger. But how many actually do it? Not many. It’s quite simple to do these things. You just need to put yourself in the right environment. But not a lot seem to do it. This became quite evident to me when I was going through and picking like a member of the year for the gym. And most improved, like a lot of people said they wanted to do it, but not many did. So the awards of a couple of hundred people, they came down to ten in each category, which is not that many, and they were the ones that said they had a goal and executed that goal and went after it and did it consistently.
Speaker1: [00:07:31] Everyone says they’re going to do something, but you need to watch out for the people that actually do it. Lesson on getting married is the best time of your life. I was pretty apprehensive about my wedding, to be honest. I didn’t know much about it. I didn’t know what was happening because we had a wedding planner and my wife organised most of it. My best man was actually so frustrated with me about how much how little I actually knew about the entire wedding, but in hindsight that was probably a good thing. I’m glad I didn’t marry my best friend. Stiff was. Yeah, the best day of my life was incredible. Strongly would suggest. I know it’s easier said than done. Locking someone in and having them having them agree to marrying you is a big thing. I never really understood the marriage thing until it happened. It’s quite a nice feeling. I know I’m in a couple of weeks out and I can say that easily, but you know, easily the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. My 10th lesson is never neglect your credit score. So, Stefan, we’re buying a house a couple of months ago, and the bank said, Do you have any debts? And I said, No, I don’t have any debts. And they were like, Well, we just ran your credit file.
Speaker1: [00:08:42] And you have. I was like, The fuck? I don’t have any payments coming out of my account. Like, what’s going on here? And I back probably about six years ago, I used one of these like flexi cards to buy some gym equipment and it was all paid off, has been paid off for years, five years, I think. But they kept the credit account open and the account the company I used got bought out by another company. So I called them up and they said we’d been bought out. And then I said, okay, well like what’s happening with this account that’s open? And they’re like, I don’t really know about it. It was a fucking rigmarole. I had to go through financial ombudsman’s and you know, it was basically a fucking shit time. But I basically just had no idea that that was on my credit score or credit account or whatever it’s called, and it affected my ability to borrow. So I couldn’t even get this loan until this thing was sorted because there’s no account, I had no idea that I had and I didn’t I don’t have any debts. I don’t know anyone anything. I don’t have any money outstanding. But this one little piece of paper. Basically held up my ability to proceed with the loan. And if it’s you or someone that’s a little bit neglectful with your finances or credit scores, I would suggest looking into that, especially heading into next year when maybe you want to make some moves.